A Horrible Night

saltydad · 11-28-2016, 11:22 PM

I lost my birth brother last night. At 56 he was much too young to die. I was one of 5 siblings in my birthfamily. Now its just Cathy and me. May his memory be a blessing.

Kat2 · 11-29-2016, 12:05 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I still have my 5 siblings but we were estranged a few years ago. After losing our parents and a sweet BIL with another at the edge, I understand that petty differences are so unimportant. Slowly I'm reaching out to build a bridge back to them. Someday my son and I may reconnect; I hope so.

bananimal · 11-29-2016, 12:38 PM

Condolences Howard.

Dan

luisport · 11-29-2016, 12:54 PM

Condolences my friend. Stay strong, Luis.

JBijl · 11-29-2016, 01:14 PM

My Condolences saltydad

Jeroen

Darkman · 11-29-2016, 06:37 PM

I know all to well that words cannot heal but I have experienced my child's death and I can feel your agony. My prayers are with you.

edwmax · 11-29-2016, 07:53 PM

My Condolences ...

Max

saltydad · 12-05-2016, 01:40 PM

Thank you all for your support. I feel I can now say that he committed suicide with a shotgun in front of his S.O. of 22 years, with whom he had been arguing. Alcoholism was involved. His S.O. feels she thinks he really didn't want to do this but was trying to scare her. In any case, Anger+Alcohol+Guns=Tragedy. He was depressed for some years since his daughter died after a failed heart transplant. If you have seen the movie The Fifth Quarter, you saw a somewhat fictionalized account of her transplant. Heartache, anger, feelings of what could we have done differently are probably never to be resolved.

Darkman · 12-05-2016, 02:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by saltydad

...Heartache, anger, feelings of what could we have done differently are probably never to be resolved.

I can say that that statement is 100% true and torments me every day!

destang · 12-05-2016, 06:38 PM

sorry for your lost , my condolences to you and yours

Snarkie · 12-08-2016, 11:17 AM

Please accept my deepest condolences. Having lost an unborn child myself, I can sort of empathize with what he was going through.

11-28-2016, 11:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
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12-05-2016, 01:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
saltydad saltydad's Photo Gallery Location: Silver Spring, Maryland USA Find me on the map! Zone: 7a Name: Howard Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,552 BananaBucks : 237,809 Feedback: 2 / 100% Said "Thanks" 14,712 Times Was Thanked 4,662 Times in 1,778 Posts Said "Welcome to Bananas" 824 Times	Re: A Horrible Night Thank you all for your support. I feel I can now say that he committed suicide with a shotgun in front of his S.O. of 22 years, with whom he had been arguing. Alcoholism was involved. His S.O. feels she thinks he really didn't want to do this but was trying to scare her. In any case, Anger+Alcohol+Guns=Tragedy. He was depressed for some years since his daughter died after a failed heart transplant. If you have seen the movie The Fifth Quarter, you saw a somewhat fictionalized account of her transplant. Heartache, anger, feelings of what could we have done differently are probably never to be resolved. __________________ Men In Nursing- "A Few Good Men" "Gardening is the purest of human pleasures." - Francis Bacon "If by a liberal, they mean someone who looks ahead and not behind; someone who welcomes new ideas without rigid reactions; someone who cares about the welfare of the people, their health, their housing, their schools, their jobs, their civil rights, their civil liberties; someone who believes we can break through the stalemate and suspicion that grips us; that is what they meant by a liberal, I am proud to be a liberal." John F. Kennedy, September, 1960 http://flickr.com/photos/saltydad/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/saltydad http://s751.photobucket.com/albums/xx151/saltydad/

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