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The Hollyberry Lady · 12-29-2011, 01:06 PM

"Internet bullies can easily destroy a forum if the staff refuses to step up and deal with these kind of problems.

Its not easy but I would say if you want a forum to survive and be friendly and happy you must be willing to deal with this.

I think the best suggestion I can give is keep an out for cliquish behavior and don't support or tolerate unwelcoming or unkind behavior.

Sadly I've seen admins ignore, let it slide or simply not see it. This in my opinion can kills a forum like no other.

Its not like a troll its more subtle and if a forum has this problem you can be sucked into before you know and then its too late.

My suggestion again is too look for cliqueish or elitist behavior and be on the look out for trouble.

I think the biggest issue that can motivate this problem to grow is a staff who won't confront a bully when they are misbehaving because the're an older member, have given a lot time or done a great deal for the site.

It comes back the fact the staff must deal with these problems quickly and early if possible"

"We’ve all run into them online. Those self-appointed protectors of truth and detail who inhabit online forums. They are belligerent, usually in-your-face, combative, sarcastic, cynical, project an air of superiority, usually don’t take a lot of photos. If they have an extensive vocabulary they use it to cow those they are addressing.. verbal bullying is their main joy in life. They LIVE for it. They are Forum Bullies.

Most Forum Bullies are compensating for something lacking in their life, something they are missing, such as: respect, friends, social graces, sex, Etc… Maybe they’re pissed off because they are short, maybe they’re ticked because they’ve gone bald.. or maybe they’re just nasty people who did not get enough love as a child. Let’s call a spade a spade: They’re a**holes.

These pitiful people feel compelled to address every single thread in a forum that they disagree with.. they just can’t let it go. They are like a moth to a flame. They MUST respond because “the other guy” is an idiot and does not know what he is talking about and SOMEONE (meaning them) must right the injustice done and squash the "false" information being disseminated by THAT idiot.

I disagree with things I read in online forums all the time but I don’t make it my business to respond to every single one of them. Really, people are entitled to their opinions, even if those opinions are based on faulty information. Just agree to disagree and move on. Hell, there are much more important things to argue about e.g. global warming, pollution, whaling, drug addiction, crooked cops… you get the idea.

Forum Bullies must have no life and no friends. If they have a wife and they treat their wife the way they treat people online I suggest they sleep with one eye open. If they tell you they have lots of friends, they’re lying and their so-called friends probably suffer them because they have no other options. If these bullies act in person the way they act online I am sure that someone would have put them in the hospital by now with a lesson well learned…. be civil or keep your damn mouth shut! The Internet allows many of these Forum Bullies to say things to others online that they would never say to them in person for fear of getting their asses kicked.

I’ve always hated bullies. I suffered at the hands of several when I was growing up. I remember one guy in particular during my high school days. Over the summer I grew quite a bit. I put on weight, muscle and height. When school began again I dreaded running into that guy but to my amazement he no longer seemed interested in me. It wasn’t until later that I realized this clown was no longer bothering me because he knew I could kick his ass.

Bullies only pick on those they believe they can dominate.

Here’s What You Can Do To Fight Online Bullies

When it comes to online forums and Forum Bullies, complain to the owners of the forum. Every single time you see one of these self-appointed defenders of truth step out of line. Complain. Do not get involved with name calling or sink to the level of the Forum Bully. That is what he wants. Do the right thing. When you see a Forum Bully attacking someone.. complain… every single time, never stop. Complain every single time. Not all forums have moderators so it may take some time but eventually these jerks will be evicted...but only if YOU play by the rules and do not get sucked into the same bad behavior as the Forum Bully exhibits.

Trust me, it works. Been there, done that, several times."

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12-29-2011, 01:06 PM	#32 (permalink)
The Hollyberry Lady The Hollyberry Lady's Photo Gallery Find me on the map! Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 15,161 BananaBucks : 1,456,759 Feedback: 1 / 100% Said "Thanks" 12,042 Times Was Thanked 11,326 Times in 5,311 Posts Said "Welcome to Bananas" 102 Times	Re: Serial BULLIES & Internet TROLLS "Internet bullies can easily destroy a forum if the staff refuses to step up and deal with these kind of problems. Its not easy but I would say if you want a forum to survive and be friendly and happy you must be willing to deal with this. I think the best suggestion I can give is keep an out for cliquish behavior and don't support or tolerate unwelcoming or unkind behavior. Sadly I've seen admins ignore, let it slide or simply not see it. This in my opinion can kills a forum like no other. Its not like a troll its more subtle and if a forum has this problem you can be sucked into before you know and then its too late. My suggestion again is too look for cliqueish or elitist behavior and be on the look out for trouble. I think the biggest issue that can motivate this problem to grow is a staff who won't confront a bully when they are misbehaving because the're an older member, have given a lot time or done a great deal for the site. It comes back the fact the staff must deal with these problems quickly and early if possible" "We’ve all run into them online. Those self-appointed protectors of truth and detail who inhabit online forums. They are belligerent, usually in-your-face, combative, sarcastic, cynical, project an air of superiority, usually don’t take a lot of photos. If they have an extensive vocabulary they use it to cow those they are addressing.. verbal bullying is their main joy in life. They LIVE for it. They are Forum Bullies. Most Forum Bullies are compensating for something lacking in their life, something they are missing, such as: respect, friends, social graces, sex, Etc… Maybe they’re pissed off because they are short, maybe they’re ticked because they’ve gone bald.. or maybe they’re just nasty people who did not get enough love as a child. Let’s call a spade a spade: They’re aholes. These pitiful people feel compelled to address every single thread in a forum that they disagree with.. they just can’t let it go. They are like a moth to a flame. They MUST respond because “the other guy” is an idiot and does not know what he is talking about and SOMEONE (meaning them) must right the injustice done and squash the "false" information being disseminated by THAT idiot. I disagree with things I read in online forums all the time but I don’t make it my business to respond to every single one of them. Really, people are entitled to their opinions, even if those opinions are based on faulty information. Just agree to disagree and move on. Hell, there are much more important things to argue about e.g. global warming, pollution, whaling, drug addiction, crooked cops… you get the idea. Forum Bullies must have no life and no friends. If they have a wife and they treat their wife the way they treat people online I suggest they sleep with one eye open. If they tell you they have lots of friends, they’re lying and their so-called friends probably suffer them because they have no other options. If these bullies act in person the way they act online I am sure that someone would have put them in the hospital by now with a lesson well learned…. be civil or keep your damn mouth shut! The Internet allows many of these Forum Bullies to say things to others online that they would never say to them in person for fear of getting their asses kicked. I’ve always hated bullies. I suffered at the hands of several when I was growing up. I remember one guy in particular during my high school days. Over the summer I grew quite a bit. I put on weight, muscle and height. When school began again I dreaded running into that guy but to my amazement he no longer seemed interested in me. It wasn’t until later that I realized this clown was no longer bothering me because he knew I could kick his ass. Bullies only pick on those they believe they can dominate. Here’s What You Can Do To Fight Online Bullies When it comes to online forums and Forum Bullies, complain to the owners of the forum. Every single time you see one of these self-appointed defenders of truth step out of line. Complain. Do not get involved with name calling or sink to the level of the Forum Bully. That is what he wants. Do the right thing. When you see a Forum Bully attacking someone.. complain… every single time, never stop. Complain every single time. Not all forums have moderators so it may take some time but eventually these jerks will be evicted...but only if YOU play by the rules and do not get sucked into the same bad behavior as the Forum Bully exhibits. Trust me, it works. Been there, done that, several times." : )**