jeffreyp

I don't think this should be listed in a banana forum.


found a good recipe for banana wine here:

How to Make Banana Wine | eHow.com

harveyc

Seems okay to have either in this social announcement subforum or the tiki hut. It's not like it's in a cultural growing section of the forum where folks go to read about growing bananas.

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orinoko

Perhaps HollyBL has no flowers to chat about..

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jeffreyp

spare me...just spare me...

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The Hollyberry Lady

How can I tell if someone I love is an alcoholic?


Recognizing whether or not your spouse is an alcoholic is a difficult thing to do. Not only do you need to consider their drinking habits but also how your own life has been affected and how you deal with your spouse's drinking. The role of codependent is a big one and even though you may not be buying alcohol for your mate, your behaviors may be affecting the entire family dynamic.

One misconception about alcoholism is that someone needs to be consuming large quantities of alcohol to be considered an alcoholic. Someone who drinks only on weekends can be every bit as much of an alcoholic as someone who drinks on weekdays. It is more important to look at drinking patterns and reasons for drinking.

Someone who is clearly drinking to relieve stress is to be considered a potential alcoholic. While some people may think it is fine to have a few beers after work and blow off some steam, it can also be a sign that your spouse is unable to effectively deal with job difficulties and needs the outlet of drinking to diffuse the situation.

The same goes for someone who heads to the bar after a fight with their spouse. This can also become a pattern, a form of escaping reality.

Alcoholics also tend to have certain personality traits. They tend to blame others for things that go wrong. Responsibility becomes something they do not want to accept and would rather put on other people. For a marriage in trouble, it is often the alcoholic who accuses the other for something gone wrong rather than accept their drinking might be the real heart of the issue.

Look at your own involvement in drinking as well. Even if you don't buy the alcohol, do you determine when, where and how often your spouse drinks? This may seem like an effective way to control the situation but the drinkers need to control it themselves. Because once the source of restriction is gone, the freedom to drink at will returns and nothing has been solved.

The lack of accepting responsibility for one's own actions couples with the lack of responsibility either on the job or in family life. An alcoholic often ignores their family or tasks that need to be done at home. It is usually the other spouse who picks up the load to accommodate the alcoholic's dysfunctional behavior. Look at where your spouse isn't helping out and the reasons for it. Consistently letting family or home life responsibilities go can also be a sign that your spouse is struggling with a drinking problem.

While there is no easy answer when considering your spouse's drinking problem, looking at the whole picture rather than just the amount of alcohol being consumed will make the situation easier to sort out.


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Jack Daw

Holly, the lady in your video is so hot, I couldn't focus on what she was saying. Next time,... please, no hot chicks in the informative videos. :P



What about this one:
How can I tell someone I love that I'm an alcoholic?

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The Hollyberry Lady

Alcoholism leads to insanity, institutions, or death.


When a newcomer goes to an A.A. meeting, they're usually told to read the big book, go to 90 meetings in 90 days, follow the 12 steps and get a sponsor.


The 12 Steps


1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable.
2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


A.A. consists of recovering alcoholics helping active alcoholics to get sober. It's a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual program.


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jeffreyp

Darkman

Since this in the "Other Topics" sub forum I find it perfectly appropriate.

Alcohol is eliminated from the body at a set rate that is not affected by physical activity. I think the elimination rate is .015 per hour. and .08 is legally drunk in most places.

The absorption of alcohol into the body can be affected by the volume of food in the stomach.

Alcohol is one of the few substances that can be directly absorbed into the body without any processing by us.

I drink mostly alone although it is infrequent that I drink.

My drinking is often accompanied by loud music and/or a fire.

When I drink it is mostly Southern Comfort or Jim Beam on the rocks and anywhere from 8 to 12 ounces. This usually occurs about once every two months or so and only occurs at my residence. I drink alone by choice and not because I have some morbid dark side. If someone happens by and wishes to drink with me that is fine and we have a good time. I find that I do most of my creative thinking and solve some dilemmas when I am drinking. I DO NOT solve or attempt to solve problems that are important when drinking. I do enjoy the release of my drinking and I do not see that as a problem. If you do not enjoy the effects of drinking alcohol why else do you drink?

I work with many alcoholics and substance abusers. I have seen many lives destroyed by both. The saddest part is the alcoholic or abuser doesn’t go down alone they usually tale others with them. They are the true victims.

I do not believe alcoholism is a disease. It is a choice.

My apologies to the offended as I tend to be a bit blunt sometimes.

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cherokee_greg

I am a recovered alcoholic. I know in AA they say you never are recovered. I lost count of the years of sobriety I have from alcohol.It dose not even bother me any more to be around it. Its in my past now. But I know if I drank it would be a problem in my life. I donot know how to just drink one. I drink to get drunk and I did it to were it became a problem. I knew It was out of control.

I just recently started using cannabis . People kept telling me to try it The last time I did chemo my niese and her boyfriend made me some weed brownies. I ate two which now I know is to much the second day I ate one it made me cope with the chemo fine.I can actually live a normal life with the canabis. I should have started using it from the begining. My Dr thinks its great.In fact he told me right before thanksgiving to eat two brownies and load up on the turkey and have a great thanksgiving.Im sorry I got of the subject.If I could drink I would. There was a time before it got out of hand I loved it.

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Darkman

Greg,

You are to be commended for the choices you have made. You recognized a problem, attacked it and over come it. It takes a strong individual to have the character, backbone and commitment to win. You are a winner.

I hope that in your current situation you can find the comfort you need in your use of cannabis. I'm glad that you are able to use it where you live. Not many areas allow it. Some may be surprised that I take this attitude but they should remember that many drugs that are used illicitly are prescribed by Doctors on a daily basis for medicinal purposes. If a Dr. says his patient can benefit from a drug who am I to question it.

Good luck and God bless!

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Kentucky Bourbon - It may not solve the problem but it helps to make it tolerable!

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cherokee_greg

Thanks for your words. I was kinda shocked I shared that with you all. But than again I feel you all are like family to me. You guys bring me up when times I need it the most. I dont feel judged here with you all. I never understood before what the cannabis could do for me untill I tried it what a diffreance ! Thanks for your words.
Greg

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Richard

I've been a member of M.A.D.D. since 1988.

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Darkman

Richard,

You Sir, have a wry since of humor!

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Darkman in Pensacola

AS ALWAYS IMHO AND YOUR MILEAGE MAY DIFFER!!!!!!!!

Life - Some assembly required, As is no warranty, Batteries not included, Instructions shipped separately and are frequently wrong!

Kentucky Bourbon - It may not solve the problem but it helps to make it tolerable!

Statistics - Data that analyst twist to support the insane opinions of those that pay them.

The Hollyberry Lady

Al-Alnon...is it for you?


Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. The following 20 questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-anon.


1) Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
2) Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
3) Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
4) Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
5) Do you think that the drinker's behavior is caused by his or her companions?
6) Are routines frequently upset or meals delayed because of the drinker?
7) Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?
8) When you kiss the drinker hello, do you secretly try to smell his or her breath?
9) Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
10) Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
11) Does it seem as if every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?
12) Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
13) Do you find yourself searching for hidden liquor?
14) Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
15) Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16) Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?
17) Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
18) Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
19) Do you feel angry, confused, and depressed most of the time?
20) Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?


If you have answered yes to three or more of these questions, Al-anon or Ala-teen may help. As I've mentioned earlier you can contact them both by looking in your local telephone directory.



Characteristics of an Active Alcoholic...


- Denial (that there's a drinking problem)
- unpredictability (out of control)
- arrogance (larger than life, inflated ego)
- suffering from self loathing and mental anguish
- immediate gratification
- seldom says thank you (ungrateful attitude)
- rarely says I'm sorry (blames others)
- unaccountability (usually avoids taking responsibility for actions)
- provokes fear, anger, and anxiety in others
- picks fights (argumentative and disagreeable)
- making jokes at other people's expense
- offensive, inappropriate humor, ie. sarcasm, belittling, ridiculing, and sexual inuendos, etc.
- constant confusion, crisis, and chaos going on
- broken promises are often made to friends and family
- financial problems (money used for alcohol instead of family needs)
- sexual problems (promiscuity, adultery, perversion)
- grandstanding (performing)
- boundary crossing (space invaders)
- unreliable
- frequently drives under the influence
- embarrassing behavior
- unable to form relationships (takes hostages instead)
- necessary to have a rescuer, an enabler, and a provoker in order to maintain alcoholism
- verbal, physical, and sexual abuse are common, as well as domestic violence


Keep in mind that these are traits of alcoholics who are actively drinking, and not necessarily the ones in recovery.


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Darkman

Greg read this article. It is quite enlightening and a bit surprising considering the source.

I will preface this by saying that I am against the illegal use of anything and certainly do not endorse nor condone experimentation by amateur pharmicists. The article just goes to show you how close we were at one time, how far we went away and now may be returning to answers that we should have had years ago.

A trip worth taking: Could LSD be the answer to PTSD? - Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - Stripes

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AS ALWAYS IMHO AND YOUR MILEAGE MAY DIFFER!!!!!!!!

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Kentucky Bourbon - It may not solve the problem but it helps to make it tolerable!

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saltydad

Greg- I'm glad you have found cannabis is effective for you with your chemo side effects. And you are indeed family here.!

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Richard

Eat the buds and save your lungs. You'll have a better experience without the smoke inhalation too.

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Darkman

Like in a salad or just straight up?

When cooked in food is the effect of the THC dimenished or affected?

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AS ALWAYS IMHO AND YOUR MILEAGE MAY DIFFER!!!!!!!!

Life - Some assembly required, As is no warranty, Batteries not included, Instructions shipped separately and are frequently wrong!

Kentucky Bourbon - It may not solve the problem but it helps to make it tolerable!

Statistics - Data that analyst twist to support the insane opinions of those that pay them.