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mskitty38583
01-03-2008, 08:51 AM
so my sister comes over to my house and sees the banana room.this was about 4 weeks ago. she says wow, when i move into my own place can i have some plants? i say sure i dont care to share.( but i told her she wasnt getting my bananas, didnt care to give her a pup when i got a few on my hcm) i tell her the only cost to her is going to be a bag of miricle potting mix(2 cubic ft. of course) and an 8 qt. bag of perilite.( you cant get perilite in sparta this time of year) and she would have to supply her own pots.( shes not getting my really big pots)when she walks out of my house with her plants there is no telling what she would of spent at the gh. i told her if she sends used pots to wash them out well before they are to be sent to my house. sending dirty pots is bad ju-ju. so my mom gets the stuff from her yesterday, and i start going through this stuff.. at 9 pm last nite at my moms house.we have dirty pots, no miricle gro mix, no perilite, and again dirty pots. what makes this worse and makes me madder then.....a wet cat with feathers... i told her the night before last...DONT SEND DIRTY POTS TO MY HOUSE. she says ok i wont. you know cause of the bacteria and bug factor. then she has the nerve to tell me i dont understand why i have to buy you dirt. (you have that stuff why do i need to replace it?) DUH!!! and im quoting," dirt like bananas dont grow on trees!" i dont care to share with anyone, especially cause she is my sister, but this is just uhhhhhhhh. so tell me yall, do you think im being unfair, or is this just the end to the holiday stresses? so now i have dirty pots sitting in my utility room, no supplies and ready to pull my hair out. and these are the self watering pots, the kind i love for my nanas. and they are filthy! im so mad i could just.........:2710: :2710: thanks for letting me vent!
gadget
01-03-2008, 09:24 AM
sounds like stress to me
you are just going to have to do a little extra for your sis
:bunchonanas:
CookieCows
01-03-2008, 11:09 AM
so sorry MsKitty ... I guess we all forget that golden rule sometimes ... especially when we're within the comfort zone of family ... and sometimes people whether family or not...
just don't get it!! :0491:
I have a grown daughter that I have to not just tell her 'what' I want but why I want it that way. If she doesn't understand the 'why' behind it, then she does it the way her brain tells her no matter what I've told her.
Good luck with it!
Deb
mskitty38583
01-03-2008, 11:18 AM
i think it would not be to bad if this didnt happen all the time with her. just like.. i am dog sitting her dog..i dont mind i love bear. hes part of the family.im dog sitting for two- years. yes i said 2 years. she gets herself into things and expects us to pull her out and we cant always. i took bear because she said she would have to put him to sleep. i said hell no your not. hes family. i love her she my sister, but she takes advantage way to much. and i know you do things for family and friends...but is there a limit?
CookieCows
01-03-2008, 11:27 AM
I definitly believe in limits ...... I wish I could enforce them with my family!
magicgreen
01-03-2008, 12:40 PM
Ya know something Mskitty...........
We USE each other everyday! EVERYDAY!!!
Whether its advice on the phone or in person, or the WWW.
Maybe someone will borrow an egg, or ask you to take them to the store.
Some people are lonely and want to just be around YOU; like that person at work, who thinks you two are a team, and ya'll gotta have lunch together everyday. Whateverrrrrr the reason.
And most times we dont mind such inconvenience's.
But with alot of folks, they'll turn that use to ABUSE!!!!
Just say 'NO' {at first you feel guilty,cuz your a care-giver) It gets easier each time you say it! And it feels kinda good!
Or try this,,,,,,,,,,Next time someone wants a plant. Like your sister.
Tell her to bring you the things you requested first!
If she doesnt...Oh wellllllllll. she probably could care less, and she can go the garden center and pay $ like YOU did, and get her own!!!!
Years ago, my sister would holler at her kids around my Mother. Just go ballistic!!! My mom would then see a stressed-out mama with 3 young children, and take the kids for days, some even started living with my mom.(5 in all, the 2 youngest from having even more fun)
She did that to be free of them, so she could party and hang-out!
Not worrying about food, how mom was handling it(she would'nt call) She was out there in the streets having a ball!
She used her---then abused her! For years!
Sometimes you have to see a spade as a spade. And deal with it accordingly! Know what i mean! I could go on, but I dont think this is the place for it. Or maybe it is.
Magicgreen
Taylor
01-03-2008, 03:22 PM
Hey Sam,
I would set limits on her, too. I have had limits set and after enough, they set in and made me straighten up...
Good Luck, I hope you can straighten this out. :)
magicgreen
01-03-2008, 05:20 PM
Like Taylor said.......limits! I learned, and others can too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tony O
01-04-2008, 12:40 PM
Ms Kitty, I would set those pots outside and tell her that WHEN she cleans them like she was told, you'll bring then in. AND when she supplies you with what you ask for, you'll fix her up with the plants. and NOT before! . Well, that's what I would do. :2743: If she won't even wash her pots, she might not water her plants either. So you go over to visit, and see them all bent over crying for a drink. Wouldn't that just burn your banana??? :2709: You need to stand your ground or she'll never learn. You're just to nice a person and she's taking advantage if it.
mskitty38583
01-04-2008, 12:53 PM
i actually thought about taking them to her new apartment and putting them on her doorstep. but then id be burning my gas in my car, so i figured id leave them sittin in my utility room. and yes that would burn my banana! it wouldnt be the first time i went over there to visit and would have to water her plants. heck when i go to my moms i have to water hers. go figure. and i have decided im not giving her any plants untill i get what i ask for. im not using up my stuff which i paid for just for her and her not appriciate it. i gave her a beautiful philidendrum one year( 2 yrs ago) that i had started from a cutting, it was huge when i gave it to her. iwent to visit 6 mo. later and she had maybe one vine that was still green and 3 leaves in the pot. i asked her what happened and she said its sick. i looked at it and it had not been watered nor fed. i told her id fix it. i brought it home and not 3 months later it was beautiful again. it has grown so much in the last 2 yrs. that i have to keep trimming the vines back by 3 ft. i told her she wasnt getting it back. i told her id root her cuttings, and i have some in a glass for her.( these are the 3 ft cuttings i took about 2 mo. ago.) burns my banana! that was good!
mskitty38583
01-04-2008, 02:56 PM
tony o , i posted a pic of the phili in my album in my gallery. its the one sitting on the shelf. in one of the pics for my white bop you can see in the background how long the vines are. thats the one my sister tried to kill.:0493: :0493: :0493:
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